Ask Your Body – Using Pain For Deeper Self-Awareness

Updated: May 8, 2018


We all have personal issues that we are blind to or resistant to face, and by having a conversation with our body, we can bypass our resistance to resolving these issues. For instance, say you have been suffering from a sore stomach. You can converse with your stomach by asking what it is sore about. Here is how such a conversation may play out (with commentary in italics): You wake up and find yourself saying, “My stomach is so sore!” - In essence, this statement could be considered an invitation to begin a conversation. Keep in mind when asking questions to not force the answers. If you are patient, they will come. You first question could be…. “What are you so sore about?” - when asking questions, it is a good idea to use the same language that you used in describing your soreness. “I don’t know, it just hurts, it just won’t go away” - At first your body may not use specific terms to describe what it is sore about, it may not even answer your question. So it might be necessary to keep asking questions to gain greater clarity, such as... “What is the hurt that won’t go away?” - This question is designed to identify what exactly the “hurt” is. “I don’t know... nobody seems to like me. Nobody loves me!” - What you are looking for in the conversation is getting to the truth of what your body is sore about. You will know the truth because it will feel right (the penny will drop), and it will be simple. Once you have arrived at the truth, you will recognize that it is you that is sore about something, not just your body. In the example above, let’s say that the belief that “Nobody loves me!” is what you are sore about. From there you could go deeper by asking more questions or just sit with the feelings and thoughts of feeling unloved. If you go deeper with the process you may receive deeper revelations. Perhaps you will see that you have been making some choices that are not loving towards yourself, courses of action that end up reinforcing your belief of being unlovable. Which could lead you to seeing that after making enough of these choices, that it is no surprise that you ended up feeling pretty “sore” about life. Seeing that you have made these choices you could ask something like ... “How could I better love myself?” Then listen for the response. Some answers may come right away, some may come in the days, weeks, and years to come. Healing is a process, one that may have many layers. The answers may include things such as a need to work less, eating better, getting more sleep, stopping doing things that you “should” do and doing things that you really want to do.


Based on this new-found wisdom you can then begin to make changes in your life. Even if you only made a few small changes you would start feeling more loved, and most likely you would start to experience others as being more loving towards you. You might even realize that there were some people in your life were always loving towards you, however in your belief that you were unlovable, you could not experience their love. Sometimes after doing this process, the ailment will go away. Sometimes there are layers and layers of healing to do before the physical symptom is relieved, healing which may include a medical intervention. And yet there are times where the symptom doesn’t leave. In those cases, you may need to learn to accept that the condition may never change. (But don’t ever let that stop you from using your body as a tool of gaining deeper self-awareness) Now that you have an idea of how such a conversation may go, I would like to stress that in using this process, that you use your own words and make any other necessary adaptations to ensure that you gain the most you can from the process. Make this process your own. Play with it, find your own way and your own voice. Above all else, trust your Self. What if the above method doesn’t work for you? Other ways that may be more suitable for you could be writing a song or a poem. You could even write a letter from your ailment to yourself, or perhaps somebody else. You could also draw, sketch or paint the pain. Or you could act it out by verbalizing the pain, moving your body to express it, or both. Whatever you end up doing, I encourage you to use the method(s) that work best for you to heal and deepen your self-awareness. If you have any questions or comments, then join my web site or FaceBook page. The link to join the site is at the bottom of the page. Thanks, Warren A few afterthoughts… - I find it important to pick a good time to do this process. Such as when I am not tired, I won’t be disturbed, or I am not pressed for time. Also, I need to feel ready to do it. If I am not ready or have a negative attitude about it, I may force the process or not give it the attention it requires. The result is that I may quit a minute in because it “clearly doesn’t work”.

Related, if you find that you are not successful, try another time. - I have used what my body has said and made it into affirmations. For instance, I recently had an injury where I needed crutches to walk. I realized that I was having difficulty moving forward in my life. So, I affirmed “I now move forward with ease.” For me it is important to remember that affirmations in of themselves don’t rid me of an issue. They help, but I still need do the work, sometimes very hard work. - These techniques are not designed to replace medical intervention. Be smart, if you need to see a professional, then go to one. You can always bring a notebook and do this work while in the waiting room. - You could use the methods described in this article to learn about what brings you joy in your life. If your body feels good, you could ask it what is feels good about. This could be way to learn what is working for you in your life. - Don’t get in the way of your own healing by thinking that “true” healing is only when your ailment is completely removed. Sometimes the healing needed is to accept a condition. - If you have an issue which you are not ready to face, know that you will have more opportunities to look at and resolve it. So be kind to yourself, in time you may be ready. And if you find you are never ready, then practice acceptance and compassion towards yourself. Life is just too short to beat ourselves up over yet another thing we “should” do.